My thoughts, some random poetry that I have written and odd ramblings along the way. Hoping to motivate and inspire others through my life lessons and heartaches shared, but also the wins and gains along the way. Through it all carried by God who shows me time and time again that every inch of me, however imperfect, is loved by Him in the purest form. A love so great and comprehending that it carries me forward always, my face upturned to His as I listen for His voice. For as long as He is my compass, I will never be lost nor falter.
Our garden in front of our house is an absolute disaster. If you do not believe me, have a look at the pictures below. You see, we are having some challenges with a persistent water drought that has been facing our Western Cape Province here in South Africa, and as a result all citizens have to adhere to strict water restrictions, and rightly so. Gardens – not being a priority under the new restrictions, are facing a hard time and many of my neighbors have started to overhaul their garden to include more desert type landscaping designs and plants that can withstand dry climates with little water. I thought it is high time that I do the same, and so with very little experience and low expectations, I got my tools out (gardening gloves, sunhat, and garden spade) and proceeded to see if I can make heads or tails out of my challenge.
As I was working for the next hour or so, pulling out weeds, sitting on my knees in the ground, getting scrapes from some of the new cactus plants that I was trying to embed in the earth beneath me, I thought how often our life’s look like my garden. Wild, overgrown, no direction, and with not enough water to sustain us. It is hard when we are faced with that picture, and often time we just cannot seem to find our way clear of all the weeds, and the dead plants around us. The only way to get out, is to start cutting those weeds. But what do those weeds represent? People and things that contribute no value to our lives. And we all have them at some point or other. They only bring negative energy, and fill your space with useless clutter, jealousy, impure intentions, and judgmental attitudes.
The first step to a fresh start, is to recognize that there are weeds that need removal, or some plants that need pruning. The second step is to ensure that we fill the space that is left behind, with people and experiences – not things, that will add value to our lives, that will build us up, that will grow with us, that will co-create a view of our life’s that is not only beautiful to look at, but have roots so deep that it can draw from an unlimited well of water below the surfaces of the earth to sustain us.
What does your garden look like today?
And now it is time
That we forget those childish things
And face the world
Eyes wide open
Ready to rise
You are kind and brave
You are vulnerable and strong
You are stubborn and agreeable
You are a contradiction of emotion
You are woman and child
You are beautiful and wise
You are impulsive and wild
You are a contradiction of emotion
You are lost and found
You are warmth and cold
You are joy and sadness
You are one of a kind
You are inspiration and procrastination
You are heartbreaker and peacemaker
You are unique and familiar
You are woman most precious
Family will always remain
A conundrum of emotion
And unanswered questions
Every once in a while
We have to let go
Of those we love most
How often do we put ourselves down, compare ourselves to someone else, listen to criticism of others and let it grow in our hearts creating self-doubt and failure?
We are all made in Gods image! Speak positivity and blessings over your life and not negativity and fear. We have all been made to shine, to rise up, to conquer. Don’t become distracted by comparison, but find your purpose and follow it. You are beautiful. You are worth it. You are enough.
As women we are too harsh with each other, too judgmental, too quick to give criticism.
True queens lift each other up, instead of tearing each other down. They build on each other’s strengths, support each other, and learn from their mutual differences. There is a golden thread that binds all women together, a secret sisterhood that should be carefully protected and nourished. So to all the women out there today, building homes or empires, be proud of who you are no matter how different or colorful, love each other, but most importantly be kind to each other. For God said: “It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry or fine clothes that makes you beautiful. But let your beauty shine from within you. That beauty is everlasting and worth everything to God.”
It happens so easily. You meet, get married, have a couple of kids, or maybe dogs, and life seems to go by in a series of nanoseconds flash bites.
Before you know it, a year has passed, and another one, and another one. You become used to just talking about the kids, and in your overfull busy life filled with school concerts, play dates, and work commitments trying to juggle all the balls without dropping anything, you hardly notice each other. Years drift away – the children are all grown up, and you have a partner that you no longer know- and barely speak to. So, remember this. The biggest gift we can give our children, is to love each other. To not forget that when you started this journey, you were a couple. Make time to invest in each other, to build each other up, to grow in the same direction, and not apart, but let their also be spaces in your togetherness. Always follow your true north.
Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror?
Or do you only notice the imperfections? Do you forgive yourself for making mistakes, do you accept yourself, even when you fail? You see, self love is not wrong, in fact it is required. If we cannot love ourselves – how do we expect others to love us back? Self love means that you respect your body, your mind and your spirit. It means that in a world of mostly superficial relationships, you understand the importance of having a deep, meaningful relationship with yourself that is more than skin deep. Nurture your inner sanctuary, that part of your soul that is the essence of what makes you you, love every little itsy bit about yourself, and make sure to spend time with yourself. Know what balances you – but also know what brings imbalance, and love yourself enough to say I am worthy, I am beautiful, I am valued, I am the daughter of the King most high, and I will let no one and no man stand against me.